Whoop whoooooop! So, it’s finally here! The most exciting and productive thing I’ve done since my exams got over! A collab with Fiona from Questions From A Teenager (one of my most favourite blogs out there) on our teenage lives.
This was supposed to be published earlier, but my internet failed to do what it was supposed to do (everything in my life has the greatest timing).
We each came up with six questions, making a total of twelve (why did I have to mention the twelve? Not everyone needs a calculator to double check everything, Arshia. Stop being an idiot.) Aaaanyway, we then answered all the twelve questions, like a sort of interview for each other, except we answer the same questions.
We also decided to include some pictures of some memorable moments in the past few years. Forgive me, if they’re not the best quality. It’s the memories that count, yes.
1. What’s your favourite memory of your teen life so far?
My favourite memory of my teen life is most definitely, our trip to Hogsmeade at Isles of Adventure in Orlando, during our holiday in the USA back in 2015. I am one of the biggest Potterheads to ever exist, and I can vividly remember that as soon as I walked in and saw Hogwarts, and the Hogwarts Express and EVERYTHING, something in me popped, and I went insane. That was also the time when I got over my fear of roller coasters (and now I’m addicted to the adrenaline they give me).
2. What’s one thing you wish teens stopped doing?
This might be really stupid of me, but one thing I really wish teens stopped doing is treating actual obstacles some people face, like trends for social media. I’m forever drowning in instagram captions like “I’m so weird.” or “Don’t talk to me, I’m awkward.” or “God, I’m so OCD.” and they’re all usually by people who in no way, are any of those things.
They talk about being weird, and accepting of other weirdness, but I say one word about my planet accidentally, and they look at me like I’m some weird, insane insect.
It’s really annoying. DON’T CLAIM TO BE SOMETHING YOU’RE NOT. End of story.
3. What book describes teen life the most realistically in your eyes?
I think The Perks of Being a Wallflower describes teen life the most realistically in my eyes. Things like stress, substance abuse, sexuality, friendship, chaotic emotions, growth, and so many other things are so beautifully conveyed in the form of Charlie’s letters. Most books for teenagers that I see popping up on the bestsellers’ lists, have the same basic romantic plot (other than the dystopian fantasy ones), and that does get old (or maybe I just haven’t found the true ones yet, I don’t know). I feel The Perks Of Being A Wallflower shows a lot of things teenagers experience really well, despite the fact that it’s based in a different time.
4. What’s one song that would be the soundtrack of your life right now?
Oh dear, there are so many songs that I could choose, but if I have to pick just one, I’d say Finesse by Bruno Mars. It’s really different from my usual jazzy, groovy taste in music, but it reminds me of some of the best moments in my recent life. I don’t listen to it as often as I did a couple of days ago (when I actually listened to it on repeat the entire time), but whenever I do, I feel amazing!
5. What advice (that you’e learnt over the years) would you give your younger self?
“Don’t stress when people call you boring just because you have a different idea of fun. You’ll find your type of people soon. And don’t change because that’s just going to make you unhappy.”
6. Write a poem that describes the life as a teenager.
This question took me the longest to answer, and took me over 5 rough drafts to answer. I’ve given up on writing a long poem, so here is a haiku, which technically is a poem. I’m not lazy ;-; just not creative enough (I’m sorry, Fiona).
Life as a Teenager
My teen life has been,
in the most beautiful way,
a perfect chaos.
1. When you grow out of your teenage years, what’s one thing you’ll miss about being a teenager?
One thing I’ll really miss about being a teenager, is how carefree life actually is. Like yes, I get it; we have big exams, and we’re coming into our own, but honestly, for the most part, we’re still under our parents’ protective wings, we don’t have to worry about actually facing the real world (things like jobs, money, looking after ourselves).
I’d also miss the emotions. For example, the ability to cry about a problem, and within two minutes, feel like I’m the happiest person to ever exist. Also, the magic. I think there’s a certain magic intrinsic to the teenage life that makes us feel like we could live forever. I can’t really explain it better than that. AND TEENAGE LOVES, YES. Irrational and magical.
That’s four things. I can never stick to a limit, sigh.
2. What was one thing you learnt about yourself during your teen years?
I learnt that I was more intelligent than I thought I was, and that numbers on exam sheets, on weighing scales, or anywhere else, didn’t really have anything to do with who I was, despite so many people believing so.
3. Describe your life as a teenager in five words. (could be a sentence, or individual adjectives)
Chaotic, carefree, beautiful, curious, confused.
4. What were your opinions and expectations about the teenage life as a child?
When I was younger, I always found teenagers around me to have really huge groups of friends that they partied and had fun with all the time. I used to think it was something that came with being a teenager.
I also used to, very seriously, disapprove of the idea of swearing (lol, okay young Arshia), drinking, and smoking, which were things that characterised teenagers in my eyes. I remember promising myself that I would never do any of those things, and that I’d always stay the angel everyone thought me to be.
5. (In continuation to 4.) As a teenager, do you feel those opinions and expectations have been validated or fulfilled?
Honestly, no. Not one bit. I don’t have a huge group of friends (couldn’t be happier about it), and I’ve hardly ever gone for a party! I swear all the time, out loud and in my head, and it’s almost like instinct because the angst is real, people. And even though I don’t drink or smoke, I’ve come to respect others’ choices to do so, even if it does disappoint me when I see them hungover and making bad decisions under the influence of whatever substance they’ve been using. Thankfully, the respect goes both ways, and I’ve never really been influenced by peer pressure.
6. What’s something you want to do, while you’re still a teenager?
I really, really want to go for a road trip with a small group of friends (I’m saying small group as if there’s a chance of there being a large one, god). I’d like to go somewhere I’ve already been to as a child, and rediscover some places. I’ve actually got a haunted hotel on my list, along with tribal villages and other magical places.
I believe in magic way more than other people my age. I honestly think I’m a 6 year old at heart.
And that concludes it! That has been my life as a teenager up until now! I’ve still got a couple more years to go, but the keyword is still going to be ‘Chaos’ I can tell.
Head on over to Fiona’s post to read about her life through her teenage years. If you liked this post, you are sure to love hers!
I absolutely loved this collaboration, and I hope we do more in the future!
I'm Arshia, an undergraduate student studying Philosophy, with an eclectic mix of interests that ensure that I'm amused at all times! I love to write and express my thoughts, experiences, and stories, and if you'd like to give them a read, head on over to my blog!
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